On my way into school this morning, I was listening to a radio show, the name and channel of which escapes me — but while I disagree with the heart of it, it did get me to thinking.
This particular caller stated that stay-at-home mothers, who raise their children with a working father, do their children a disservice (apparently, particularly their daughters…) because it is not teaching them to be self-sufficient. Even if the husband is comfortably bringing home enough of the bacon to support the family comfortably, this particular caller stated that a mother staying at home to raise her children and to run the household does not teach children that this is a possibility in the future, with the way the economy works today.
I found this interesting, because I think it’s more a matter of teaching children to be self-sufficient in fact, versus by example. For instance, when I was 16, I was *told* I had to have a summer job. “No loafing for you, this summer!” I believe was the key-term. Granted, I had had an academically lame year and didn’t perform well at all — this could have been as much a punishment as it was a lesson. A stay-at-home mother, in my opinion, can induce the same lesson in working in the same manner it was done to me, as both-working parents can. Further, if both parents work, and make $100,000 a year — and don’t require their children to work, and live comfortably enough to give their 19-year old children allowances versus requiring them to move out and work — is this conducive to learning how to be self sufficient? Sure, the old adage of “teach by example,” is a powerful force — but if this is what the children were exposed and used to from birth, would this really matter?
- When All Else Fails – Sweep, stay at home mom, SAHM, housework, chores, (everydayfamily.com)
- Taxman hits stay-at-home mothers (telegraph.co.uk)
- How to Stay Sane While Working From Home during the Holidays (everydayfamily.com)